Conflicted Dad Asks The Internet If He Should Reveal Daughter's Dark Secret To Her Fiancé

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mattstaff
Jun 9, 2019 10:00 PM EDT

This is a TOUGH one. Dad isn't sure whether or not he should tell his 25-year-old daughter's fiancé about the fact that she's a diagnosed sociopath. I mean, what do you do with all that? 

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    Text - r/AmltheAsshole + JOIN u/Pause96 16h 2 2 1 AITA for wanting my daughter's boyfriend/soon-to-be fiance to know her dark secret before marriage? I'm the dad of a 25 year old young woman whol love very much. I've been able to have a good relationship with my daughter and l enjoy my time with her, but there's one thing about her that would give many people pause - she is a diagnosed sociopath.
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    Text - She exhibited odd, disturbing behavior at a young age, and after a serious incident of abuse towards her younger sister, I realized she needed professional help. Throughout her elementary years she struggled heavily, getting in lots of trouble in school for lying, cruelty and all other types of misbehaviors. With an enormous amount of therapy & support, her bad behavior was minimized as she grew older. She received an ASPD diagnosis at 18, and I had suspected it for long prior.
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    Text - After her aggressive behavior was tamed, her following years were much more fruitful. She's law-abiding; has a decent job and a good education; and has many good friendships and admirers. Especially male admirers; she is very, very charming and adept at attracting guys and maintaining their interest. She uses that old dating guide "The Rules" like a Bible. She currently has a boyfriend of about a year and a half who's crazy about her, and who I have a very strong relationship with (we liv
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    Text - But I doubt she loves him. We've had some very honest, in-depth discussions about her mental health since her diagnosis, and she's been open with me that she doesn't feel love or empathy towards anyone, even family. When she acted very sad and broken up over the death of one of her closest friends at the funeral, she confessed to me privately that it was all a put-on, and that she felt "pretty neutral" about the whole thing. She has also stated she has never once felt guilty about anythin
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    Text - Her boyfriend (who might propose soon) has no idea about her diagnosis, and she's been very upfront with me that she has no plans to ever tell him, thinking it'll scare him away. I've made it clear to her that she needs to tell him the truth before they marry; that he has the right to know and consider it; or I will; to which she always responds, "I know you wouldn't dare." I actually would - I really like and respect this young man, and would feel awful keeping this "secret" from him, an
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